I know I am not perfect but I try to be a good dad and husband. And I’m not an unintelligent person. When I said each baby was a once-in-a-lifetime occasion, he replied, "When you've seen one baby, you've seen them all." One question, can the person launching the attacks ever change and how? So why on earth does he think it's okay to say such awful things to me?Every interaction I have with my wife these days - every single interaction ends up in a fight. He never has something good to say. If I’m hot, it’s my fault. Good luck.I just won a major international award after a long, hard career. If he asks for my advice, I cautiously share my thoughts. 8 years of marriage n idk if i can stay til death because of itSo if my fiance puts the diaper on our child so loose that it’s falling off and I say ‘the diaper needs to be tighter I am being a control freak? That is me too, because then I won’t be automatically corrected on something. Whether you are a man or woman, I don’t think it matters. I feel wrong about myself. There was a time when she had no health issues before our second son was born. He is critical toward his sons as well. I love my daughter but I’ve begun to dread going home.I NEED HELP. I'm more of a go-along to get-along type of person. I divorced 10 years ago. Be strong, be fierce, know your truth and know your value I cant believe I am not the only woman going through this! I always felt loved in a relationship and sometimes I remember my previous relationship and how I felt and how great time it was (although there was a major problem which made us separated).omg it's such a relief to read this! All for what? Put your big girl panties on and get the hell out of that horrifying situation! Divorce is like a tornado that destroy everything, but if you a glass full kind of person, destruction give you the opportunity to rebuild and build with purpose.Despite my initial comments, none of these actions are easy, but something will have to be done or the criticism will chip away at your soul until you have nothing. He even says I let our kids do whatever they want and we have good kids. The “I can take a little here and there” is so true, but it seems that there is something always, almost daily but certainly weekly. I work 7 days a week to make sure all bills are taken care of (he pays the rent and I pay all the bills). He adores me and I personally have never met a person like him in my entire life. They are convinced that things like routine tasks should be done a certain way, and that their way is the only right way to accomplish those things. He tells people the same thing even when I take care of a lot at home...and also says I go shopping every day...I seldom shop beyond getting groceries and gas. You cannot and will not ever be able to change a critical person. It’s a living death anyway. However, I would find leaving my toddlers for even a weekend too distressing. I mean come on there comes a point that you are at the end of your rope!!
She would make smoke and mirrors stories up as to why she didn’t want to be around me or have anything to do with me for years and I have her the space and left her be and tried to appease to the best of my ability. So much time trying to stay ahead of it. But as he was living in our country based on our legal partnership, my leaving him would mean he would have been thrown out of the country and I couldnt do that to him or my daughter. I have a lot of great relationships in my life – good friends and loving family. And because they probably haven’t identified their anxiety as coming from within themselves, they’re assigning it to the little things you don’t do “the right way,” then pointing those things out in hopes that you will “fix” the problems, thus alleviating their anxiety for them.While your spouse may be telling you, “It’s not me, it’s you,” it is most certainly about them.In a high-maintenance relationship like this, it’s hard to cope with your spouse’s complaints and critiques without harboring resentment toward him or her. I want her to know her dad no matter how I feel about him.During and after my delivery he was also incredibly unsupportive and even interferred with me breastfeeding our daughter by taking her off my breast to give her a bottle if she struggled for even a few seconds, which messed with my supply and her ability to learn to drink from the breast properly.When one day he held her from me and refused to hand her to me for a feed at 3 weeks post partum I was fed up and again went to stay with my baby at my parents in peace for a week. But on one occasion when she turned on me if front of our best friends and they defended, me she turned on them!! BUT We can only find our true worth in the Father’s eyes and heart, and He unlike any husband or earthly Father is abundantly accepting and forgiving, and judges us on only our love to Him. Don't give up. He constantly calls me a goldfish, because he says i don't remember things - i've actually got a very good memory and remember tons of things but i don't remember the same types of things as him. I am extremely busy being a working mom working 7 days a week that’s why the only time left for me is for chores and to take care of the family.Whenever I do something my way and not his way, he will criticize me for it and make me feel that I am wrong. This tells me that if you brought those girls into this marriage & you've been married for 20 years, these daughters are grown adults at this point. Nothing I do is right. I rocked out baby to sleep and tried to put him down and he woke up, so i rocked again and he woke up on the second put down attempt again, and my wife told me in the most hurtful tone, “it’s probably because he doesnt like you” i said, wow that was so hurtful how could you say that? I told him this morning I thought he was being unreasonable and rude. We decided that 1 of us always has to end the argument. But in other ways I hate it and it makes me really unhappy. I joke that my husband would find criticism with me if I won the lottery. I have a vision for our family that is the most important thing in my life. Why should I, a simple high school graduate, know more than a string of professionals?